When I am in a bad mood and feel like blaming someone else for it, I will try something new – I won’t. Blaming doesn’t work. It makes the other person defensive and deaf to what I say, and it postpones my seeing and understanding what the feeling beneath the blame is. Today I will recognize that behind my urge to blame is probably either self-condemnation or a fear of being blamed myself. I will stay with those feelings and see what they are about for me before I act on them blaming someone else.
- Tian Dayton
Life is really simple, but men insist on making it complicated.
- Confucius